The #1 Thing We Did to Keep Intimacy Alive as New Parents

One of the biggest questions I hear from women is:

“How do I get my partner on board when it comes to strengthening our relationship?”

It’s a fair question. We’re capable, independent women—used to getting things done on our own. But when it comes to our relationship, it’s not as simple as just ticking a box on the to-do list.

I know this first-hand. There was a time when I’d gear myself up for the talk” with Michael— running through the perfect in my head about kids, intimacy, or communication—only to be met with the dreaded “yeah, whatever” look.

 I’d walk away deflated, thinking: Why can’t he see how important this is?

Then the frustration and resentment would creep in.

That was me a few years ago.

Now? Our relationship has never been stronger. We talk openly, we prioritise connection and intimacy, and I can honestly say we’re in the 33% of couples who stay connected and content through the early years of parenthood.

But here’s the thing: it didn’t happen by chance.

It came down to a few intentional shifts that anyone can make. The 3 Shifts that Changed Everything

1: Owning how I felt and what I wanted

This was the game-changer. Instead of leading with blame—“you don’t do this,”—I shifted to: “I feel… and what I’d love for us is…”

It opened the door to possibilities instead of putting up walls. 

2: Being the change I wanted to see

I stopped waiting for Michael to “get it” and chose to lead the way. For me, that meant showing appreciation for the small things (without keeping score) and creating moments for us to connect.

3: Keeping it simple and doable

If it felt heavy or like homework,we weren’t going to stick with  it. So I started small. For us, it was the 8 Dates to Success book. I read it cover-to-cover and simply asked Michael to read just one chapter. That small step sparked something bigger.

A simpler next step

Since then, I’ve found an even easier way for couples to start.

I asked Michael to join me in a quick 5-minute video where we share what it actually looks like to invest in your relationship while it’s going well.

It’s short, practical, and the perfect resource to share with your partner—without it feeling like another job on the list.

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And if you’re the kind of woman who wants your relationship to feel as intentional and fulfilling as the rest of your life, that’s exactly what my couples coaching sessions are designed for. 

Together, we’ll take you from “fine” to deeply connected, so your relationship thrives through parenthood, not just survives it.